Letting go is one of the hardest things a person can do. When I say “letting go”, that can literally mean so many different things. I am about to explain all the things I’ve had to learn to let go of these last couple weeks. I want to show you the one thing each situation has in common.
My relationship (status)
I was with him for nearly 4 years. Crazy, huh? That’s a long time. Sadly, about a month ago it slowly just broke off between us. At first, I didn’t know how the heck I was going to possibly survive. (seriously we talked everyday for 4 years of my life???) Not just with the fact that I was losing him, but also losing his incredible family. I bet some people who have been in a long relationship understand when I say I was also losing his family. I prayed and I prayed and I prayed, and nothing got better. That was my sign from God that it was time to let go. And let me tell you, that hurt… it was hard to accept and even try to understand what God had planned for me. I was confused and frustrated. BUT I learned to let go of that relationship because God told me to, and He gave the approval to. He reassured me that I wouldn’t be “giving up” if I did and that for now, it is for the best. I learned to let go of a 4 year relationship within a FEW WEEKS, because I learned to trust God.
With that, I learned not to destroy a beautiful friendship that was developed within that last 4 years. God specifically told me NOT to do that, and even though I was angry and frustrated with the situation, I trusted God, and He put peace and love in my heart so I could avoid any of that. I LEARNED TO TRUST GOD.
This one continues to eat at me everyday since the above happened. I am finding peace though. I realized that I wasn’t doing anything anymore to make my dreams come true when it came to my career. I was allowing myself to settle and I promised myself I would NEVER do that, yet I was doing it without even realizing it. I had stopped trying to do what it took for me to get where I wanted in life. Not only had I stopped with my trust in God and stopped listening to Him, but I started relying on myself. YOU CAN NOT RELY ON YOURSELF. I have now learned to let go, and let God. There is no reason to be stressed out about my career situation because God has a plan for me, and He will tell me each step I need to take and how to get there. That is a very hard concept for me, to just let each step be provided to me by God, because I want to figure everything out as soon as possible, and that has come back to haunt me. Because I am impatient, I want things done right away and don’t want the part where I have to wait, and that honestly has come back to haunt me. But I have been patient this last month, and a few steps have been revealed to me. I have learned to trust God.
This one has probably been the hardest, but God definitely has made it so much easier for me than it could be. I have learned to let go of the idea that I NEED someone in my life to make me happy. I have been so dependent on that for nearly 4 years of my life, I didn’t even realize it. Because of this situation, I have realized I truly wasn’t happy with myself. But now, after only a month, I am. I am learning every day, and learning to be the best me that I can be. Sometimes I struggle, but I am so thankful to God for giving me this opportunity in my life to make myself better. So many people would have such a tough time after getting out of a 4 year relationship. And most probably would not consider this an “opportunity”. They would think for months on end that their life was over, and they can’t survive without that person etc., etc. God is humbling me every day, and healing my heart. Not healing my heart from this break up, but healing my heart from the hurt I have done to myself for some time now. I learned to trust God with my happiness.
God has everything in your life under control. Without God, I would probably be still angry, upset, and crying about all of this. I would still be wondering why God took a perfectly good man of God who was kind, loving, funny, etc. out of my life?
With God, I have realized that it had nothing to do with us together. He did nothing wrong, I did nothing wrong. It had to do with the fact that I couldn’t love to my full abilities because I wasn’t even loving myself. That’s not something I even realized I wasn’t doing, but because God has given me this WONDERFUL OPPORTUNITY, I have realized it. I am excited to full-fill whatever God has planned for me. So someday when God presents to me the right time for me to love (whether it be Ty or another man) again, I can do it to my fullest capabilities. Because any person deserves that.
God has a plan for you, for me, and for everyone. We don’t always understand why He does the things He does. But I promise if you open your eyes, open your ears, and open your mouth. You can see the beauty in life that hasn’t disappeared since your bad situation, you can hear Him tell you to trust Him, and you can learn to pray to Him and instead of telling Him what He should be doing for YOU… you can simply ask God what you can do for Him.
There is to much in life to be happy about. God is way to good to let something so insignificant compared to the overall picture break you down. Learn to humble yourselves in front of the Lord and good things will come your way.
“I pray that God, the source of hope, will fill you completely with joy and peace because you trust in him. Then you will overflow with confident hope through the power of the Holy Spirit.” -Romans 15: 13